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{Five Fab} Ways to Beat the Holiday Blues

The Holiday season is officially here. Next week is Thanksgiving. Isn't that crazy? Wasn't it just Halloween? But I won't complain since this is my favorite time of the year. I love everything about Thanksgiving and Christmas-- the food, the family time and the decorating.

My fondness for the holidays stems from my memories of growing up in Brooklyn. Watching the colors of the leaves change for Thanksgiving and waking up to a snow-covered yard on Christmas morning was a magical time.

But as you grow up, life happens and some of that magic gets lost. About five years ago I decided to shift my energies and rekindle my holiday spirit. I began focusing on the people and things that added joy and meaning to my life. 

So today my pre-holiday gift to you is this post-- 5 Fab Ways To Beat The Holiday Blues.


{Challenges} Giving #Vlogtober A Go!: Day 1

Hey Fabs!

Happy October! 

One of the things that always challenges me to the point where I just never do it, is video blogging. Or more accurately, editing vlogs. I will record a video and that's no big deal but then when it comes time to edit it, I just lose all my mojo for it.

Maybe it's because I am not using the best software but it just takes me such a long time {insert sad violin playing}. Bwaaaa..

I have managed to put out a few that I actually got through and liked as evidenced on my youtube page but there are so many other things that I would love to share via video and just don't.

Soooo...I thought why not join in on this Vlogtober challenge, which is simply a challenge to post a video blog every day of October. I figure at a minimum I will get in the habit of just getting behind the video camera more.

And since I love the spontaneity of Periscope (follow me!!), I will most likely be using it all month to live broadcast and then post the videos to my youtube channel.

So to 1 of Vlogtober oh and going forward the videos will be in landscape..womp!

Upon request, I have added links to some of the items in this video!


{Beauty} Finding Joy In The Journey Featuring Origins Three Part Harmony #ad

Hey Fabs!
I wrote a little bit about this on my birthday post but I wanted to share more with you about how my life has changed in such wonderful ways as I have gotten older. I truly believe that the biggest reason for this change is that I have been consumed with gratitude & just living each moment as they come. 

And as a result, this year I have accomplished things that I never even really thought were possible. For one, I have started running. This was huge for me because I have health issues that affect my legs.  And while I walked many a race and even walked a marathon back in my 20's, the last thing that you could have told me at the beginning of this year that I would be doing is running.

But I am

{Life} Cheers & Coming Soon!

Hey fabs!

I am just checking in and sharing a few things going on with moi. For one, I just posted an update on #DecorateMyFlat on Luxaholic about my balcony and the drama I am having getting the central piece for it, the love seat. Feel my pain here.

On a more pleasant note, I can not believe how fast a year has come and gone but Joe and I are leaving for an anniversary trip a little bit over a week away and I am just so geeked to get away and relax. I most likely will not be blogging but I will of course be sharing on my social channels using my travel hashtag #JetSetCurves

But before all of that, expect a giveaway, a foodie treat and of course more #plussizepicks & new fashion OOTDs like this one featuring this super fun, twirly dress from my Gwynnie Bee closet.

Stay Tuned!


{Life} It's My Earth Day Birthday!

Hey Lovelies!

I love sharing a birthday with the Earth ;) and normally I celebrate my birthday the entire month of April but this year, the month kind of snuck up on me and it wasn't until I like the 3rd that it dawned on me that I hadn't made any plans. And oddly enough I was cool with that.

Joe brought home cupcakes late last night to ring in my birthday...
While of course I love celebrating and having fun, this year thus far has been so much more about just simply being grateful that I get to see each new day.  So that's how I am living, taking each day in and working to spend every single one of them in celebration of the gift that they are.

xoxo, Jaye


{Life} A Woman of Change #NaBloPoMo #womenslives

Today's prompt: It's Women's History Month. There has been so many important women who have shaped the world. Who do you immediately think of when you think about women (past or present) who bring about change?

{Was knocked out on meds last night, so this post is a day late

The first name that came to my mind when I read this prompt was "The Big O", Oprah.

Happy birthday to the BIG O! You are one of my greatest inspirations!! #Oprah

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I can not think of anyone who has impacted more lives and in turn made our world better. I remember when I used to watch her show religiously. It shaped my world. I learned so much and was influenced in such a positive way by the variety of guests,etc that she featured.

From pushing reading to her putting herself out there as not some super woman but a real woman just trying to do her best because at the end of the day, that is all we can do.

Oprah definitely has and continues to bring about change in a world that is desperately in need of it.

What say you? 
What woman do you immediately think of who has brought about change? 


{Playlist} Music To Love To

Hey Lovelies! 

It's of course love month and I can't think of anything that speaks the language of love like music!  I mean no matter if you are single or attached, heartbroken or in love, with mr or mrs right or mr or mrs right now, there are songs that resonate for you, reinvigorate you, comfort you and remind you of the love you have, had or one day hope to have.

So in the spirit of this, I have put together a playlist of some of my favorite songs. They aren't all mushy love you for life kind of songs, although there are some of those included ;) but these are more so songs about love and what it can make you do, take you through and ultimately how it can settle your soul YES, Stephanie Mills! I feel the fire).

I hope you enjoy it.


New Year, New Vibe: Be Inspired Journal & Love Pouch Giveaway

One of the things that I started 2015 affirming for myself was actively working to accomplish my goals, my dreams and my aspirations.

Doing so definitely requires spending more time connecting with myself and really getting to the heart of the things that I want to achieve and do and be.

I desire to really engage more creatively, to take more chances, to stop procrastinating and to be open to being inspired in a variety of ways and hopefully be inspiring for others.

So when I came across this journal, it was just PERFECT.

GiGi New York Satchel: Rent or Buy | Journal: Marshalls |
Stamp Set: Michaels | Love Pouch: Target


New Year, New Vibe: Mix Things Up #CurvesDefined

Happy New Year Fabs! I can NOT believe how fast 2014 came & went!

We are still living out of boxes since our Dec 19th move but girlllllll it feels good to have more space.

I have slowly been acquiring new things. Deets on my latest score, this fab rug > Luxaholic post.

We have been without cable/internet since the move so I am again writing this on my phone, so it has definitely slowed down the frequency of posts.

But all that mess aside (side eye comcast AND our building owner) I wanted to share one of my many aspirations for 2015, which is to keep myself engaged in my goals by mixing things up as much as I can.

I started of 2015 in the gym, working my #CurvesDefined and while moving from elliptical to weight machines to treadmill I realized that for me to really stay at it, I need to keep it varied AND fun. 

Oh and I also need cute workout clothes. Shallow maybe but whatever works, no?

And in synchronicity with this need, an email from the place where I took one of the most fun and definitely crazy ass kicking workouts dropped in my box.

So Bollywood Groove here I come or rather here I come again!  (More on this to come). And now that I have space to actually move around without breaking something or injuring myself, I will be dusting off my Zumba dvds as well and plan to start checking out the classes at the gym.

How do you keep yourself inspired and engaged in your goals?


{What I Wore} Red Haute & Ugly Christmas

My style goal for Christmas day was to keep it simple and cute. First up was this awesomely fabulous red London Pintuck Sheath Dress (similar black here) from my Gwynnie Bee closet.


{Life} Who Moves 6 Days Before Christmas?


Seriously. I have written before about how crazy small our apartment is and so we reached the point where, while still hoping to buy property eventually, it was either get a bigger place NOW or get a divorce.

Haha...joking...sorta :) 

So, on Friday, December 12th I went to look at a place. We signed the lease on Saturday, December 13th (Joe didn't even see the place but trusted me to choose, which kinda freaked me out because I felt like the bedrooms might have been too small) and we moved the following Friday, December 19th, six days before Christmas.


Moving day went pretty smoothly, The movers, a company that I have used twice, Coffey Brothers Moving, arrived on time and the movers got to work. I felt kinda bad for them since they were dealing with third floor apartments on both ends but they were professional and did the damn thang in pretty good time.

When they finally left and the dust settled a little bit, I pulled out my winter themed linens and made the bed. It as pretty much all I had the energy for.


{Life} 3 Ways To Break The Blues #NaBloPoMo

Hello lovelies...

It's the first day of the December #NaBloPoMo and as mentioned here, in addition to regularly scheduled posts, I will be responding to the prompts that Blogher posted for the month.

Today's prompt:

What do you do when you're down to bring yourself a little joy?

My down days are more like down caves. I can get really deep in them & because I am a loner by nature, I tend to want to be left alone but thankfully down days are rare as of late for me. When they do hit me, there are a few simple pleasures that add a little joy & sparkle back to my world.


{Fab Five} Tips To Survive The Holiday Season #NaBloPoMo

Don't you feel it? All the pre-holiday air? It's invigorating and nostalgic and just wonderful, right?

But as we all know, the wonderfulness of the most wonderful time of the year can turn into exhaustion in a heartbeat.

So I have put together a list of 5 things that I feel are going to be essential to maintaining your joy and sanity this holiday season.

#1 - Sleep

Yeah it sounds simple enough, right? But we all know that getting enough sleep can be challenging during the most chill of times but add to that the holly, jolly, folly of the holiday season and we all tend to skimp on it.

So, I am challenging YOU & me to make sure that we get those z's in. And this includes sneaking in those short naps, which can be seriously nirvana.  I think our bodies and our minds and the folks around us will thank us for it.


{Events} Cosmopolitan’s Fun Fearless Life Weekend in NYC #FunFearlessLife

Cosmopolitan Magazine is hosting it's first ever Fun Fearless Life Conference in New York City this weekend, Nov 8th & 9th and yours truly will be there covering it.

I love the name that they chose. It just speaks to everything that I feel life should be, an adventure. One where you don't sit on the sidelines but where you go out and meet life and all of her ups and downs fearlessly.

On tap for the Fun Fearless Life Conference will be some of the most AWEsome and influential women like Sophia Amoruso, the Nasty Gal founder & Kelly Osbourne (yes miss fab hair herself). And the guys will be there too, including twitter CEO Dick Costolo. They will all be sharing their take on life, careers, health, dating and everything in between, which I am sure will consist of a lot of lessons and laughter.

This is a Cosmo event, so of course there will be beauty makeovers and shopping but I am most excited about the scheduled events. They will cover a full range of topics from fashion to fitness (with my crush Jillian Michaels), career planning and social media upgrading to home ownership.

So, if you will be in NYC, snag a ticket and tweet me so that we can connect or follow along via the #FunFearlessLife tag and my twitter and instagram feeds as I will of course be sharing ALOT!.

{Life} Sundays Are Made For...

Happy Sunday Lovelies!

Normally on Sundays I like to sleep in but today I got out of bed early & actually was in the mood to be domestic ��. 

And this case of domesticity had me doing something that I never want to do, the laundry.

Normally Joe will lug it downstairs but today I am on my own, so I went with what could only be described as "fall fever" and did it myself.

As a reward, I made myself an easy breakfast that all the fixings of turned out to be from Trader Joe's.


These butters are so good, especially the fig one. 

And if you know me & my Starbucks habits then you know chai is my thang, so I am always buying any that I see.

This chai is very sweet and not in the Teavana Oprah Chai sweet kinda way (which I LOVE) but although it could use some spicier spices, its not bad.

And as an extra BONUS, I checked out the latest sale @ Eloquii.

BOGO free dresses & skirts! Gahhhh...

I may or may not have snagged these two �� (ps I am writing this post on my phone, hence the emojis that don't show up properly on blogger...#sideeye google)



Next on the agenda is a trip to the store because I am making dinner for Joe for once (yeah, I did say "fall fever" didn't I??!! )


p.s - I just got an email that my FAVORITE LIPPIE from this post is back in stock! YES, I am reaping so many rewards today LOL


{Featured} Celebrating My Daughter's Independence! #ValueCards #CollectiveBias #shop

This shop has been compensated by Collective Bias, Inc. and its advertiser.
All opinions are mine alone.  #ValueCards #CollectiveBias 

I always tell people that my main goal as a mother was to raise my daughter to be independent. So needless to say, I want to celebrate the fact that at 20 years of age, she has been consistently working since she was 18 and will soon be moving into her own apartment.

I wanted to let her know how proud I am with the perfect greeting card and some pamper me goodies.

I remember moving into my own first apartment at the age of 19 and how exciting it can be and I also know how challenging it has been for her to find just the right place.
And I think we all know how stressful the actual moving can be. Right?

Well my cure all for stress & anything else that ails me, is usually a good long soak in a warm, fragrant bath.

So, to help her relieve whatever post move stress she may have once she gets settled in, I wanted to put together a little housewarming gift with a few "bath therapy" essentials for relaxation.

I have written before how much I miss the ritual of sending & receiving greeting cards, so I definitely wanted to include one with the goodies.

So, I headed to Walmart & was honestly somewhat surprised at the huge selection of $.47 and $.97 cents value cards that Hallmark has. 

I ended up getting the super cute card above because it says exactly what I want to say to her, Way to Go Kiddo! You did it! Your Mama is proud! You better had (LOL..joking...well kinda)

I packed it along with some bath salts, lotions, a candle, a bath brush and sponge in a cute fabric basket that she can use for storage later.

And while I love social media & the birthday tweets, etc, an actual greeting card still brings the biggest smile to my face when I receive one, so I had to snag several copies of this card because I know I am not the only one who feels that way and it says Happy Birthday so perfectly.

And besides these, I also picked up quite a few others to celebrate fall (my favorite time of year) and the upcoming holidays.  

Do you celebrate life's milestones & holidays with greeting cards?  

I am looking forward to getting back to doing this so much more often. I truly miss the connection that comes from taking a little time to select the perfect card and letting others know that you are thinking about them. 

Make sure you can check out Connections by Hallmark  & join the Hallmark Card Rewards Program. As a member you will receive a reward for every 5 Hallmark Cards that you buy. The rewards can be collected from Hallmark Cards that are purchased anywhere, but as noted above, Walmart has a HUGE selection. 

Pretty sweet, right?

You can sign up for the Hallmark Card Rewards Program and also make sure you check out how other bloggers are sharing the love via Hallmark #ValueCards on Twitter!

Disclosure: As noted above, this is a featured post but as always, I only write what I really think. Learn more about my featured posts policy here.


{Life} Sometimes You Just Need To Unplug

For the first time in forever, I went away on a lil holiday and did not take my laptop and I must say, although there was work that I needed to get done, I am glad I didn't.

I also didn't set up my normal post archives reposting or gasp...didn't ask Joe to take a single photo of me and only have a couple that I took of myself, like this blurry one..oh and I finally wore this gorgeous blue faux leather tank that I have had for months.

Oh and this one at the hotel gym...yes, I tried to get in a little #CurvesDefined

And a couple that I took of us, all with my cell phone.

We went to Detroit to check out The Monster Tour and Eminem and Rhianna did not disappoint. It was a fabulous night and we danced and danced and sang and rapped and just had the best time. Here is a video snippet of Em performing one of my favs.

And while we had a lil hotel drama upon arrival, our weekend was AWEsome and the perfect reminder that sometimes, you truly need to just disconnect for a bit and do more being.

Photography has always been a love of mine and I love snapping food, nature and architecture and this trip was no exception, I hope to post pics from this trip on my Everyday City Scenes blog here (a couple are already up).

I can't believe that August is gonneee...These days are flying by!


{What I Wore} My Wedding Dress

Joe and I jumped the proverbial broom, June 20th in a quiet ceremony that consisted of the two of us, my friend Rick Stewart who photographed us and the sweetest judge.

We chose to get married this way because, well, after what will be 18 years together, we just wanted to. LOL...Anyway, we are planning to have a reception where we will invite people next year but all that aside, for this post I wanted to share a little about my dress.

Photo: Stewart Photography
The vibe that I was going for with my wedding dress was very Audrey Hepburn. Simple, quiet & elegant. And I am very unconventional in a lot of ways and choosing my wedding dress was no different. It was May 8th around 10pm and it dawned on me that we were getting married in a little over a month, so of course I hit the internet.

Somehow I ended up on Light In The Box, a site that I had seen before but was a little leery about shopping but I decided to check it out anyway and by 2am I had chosen, customized and ordered my dress.

The dress I chose, the A-line Bateau Knee-length Satin Wedding Dress With Draping completely met the Audrey vibe that I was going for, although the fact that it was (at the time) only $77 kinda made me nervous but I had been on the site for hours, reading reviews and googling reviews, so I just went with it.

And I am so glad that I did. 

Photo: Stewart Photography
Shoes: ASOS | 2028 Silver-Tone Glass Lattice Bracelet | Lace Bra (so gorgeous I didn't mind it peeking out)

My dress arrived May 29th and I was alternately excited and afraid to open it because I mean really, it was a dress I chose in the middle of the night, basically site unseen, custom made by me inputting my measurements in on a website that I had never shopped before. Not to mention that for two weeks after I ordered it, I did not hear a peep from them on the status of it, so I was a lil bit worried.

Thankfully the minute I lifted the dress out of it's packaging, I exhaled. It was so incredibly well made and worth so much more than what I paid for it or even the max price that they have listed on the site, especially for a custom piece.  The satin has a great weight to it and it was beautifully sewn and lined from top to bottom.  It even had breast pads which initially freaked me out, because my girls don't need padding but they cuffed me perfectly.

Needless to say, I am definitely now a Light In The Box convert and will look to them when shopping from now on.


{Life} August To Do List

These days are moving so FAST! I can't believe that we are already six days deep into August already but I am ready to do that dang thang.

-As noted on my July recap, I am no longer all that excited about the template I purchased for the blog, so I am rethinking it.
-The previously mentioned features are almost complete. I just need to get out of my own way and top being so anal about it and just decide to be ok with what I have done. Being anal is seriously a problem.
-I have set a new posting goal of a minimum of 3x a week.
-I also want to add more beauty and lifestyle posts, as I love those areas as well and they just don't get enough play here.

-Reconnecting and getting things back on track is still in progress.
-Closet Fete: pieces photographed and loading is on track to happen by the end of this week
-The tees are designed but this, like photo features is always a process for me. I will make something and love it but then come back to it and change my mind.  So I am working on me to stick to this deadline. Working to just sometimes let things be. Fingers crossed.
-The office space is still high on my list. I found a lovely space. It's small but it has great light, which is a huge thing for me but I am just not sure about the location.

-Meditation is always something that I have aspired to but never quite mastered, so I am giving the Deepak + Oprah 21 Day meditation a go. It starts Aug 11th.
-Summer is winding down (boohoo) so, the goal to get outside and keep my body moving is still in effect, so Summerdance, zumba & thai chi in the park & lakefront biking are on the calendar.
-And of course getting my gym workouts in. I fell off in July mainly because Joe's work schedule has changed but I just need to get used to going on my own because I still need to get it in.


-Since we have decided to move, we have been looking at places and are still working out if we are going to rent or buy.
-I am still not thrilled with the wall of boxes, so I may still insist on getting it moved to storage.
-Get more organized. As mentioned on Luxaholic, the size of our current space makes me crazy, so I really need to work hard to get more organized.

What's on your to do list? 


{Life} Where I Stand - July Recap

Happy August Lovelies!

Although summer is fastly slipping away, I am glad that I can honestly say that I am feeling pretty good.

The melancholy is lifting and I have to believe that sunny days on the beach, biking along the lakefront & actually getting some things done has had a lot to do with it and I am truly grateful.

Here's where I am with July's list:

*The #Rock10for30 post is dropping this week
*The blogger features are almost complete. I had to fire my assistant. She just has too much of her own things going on, so I have taken the projects back and working them myself.
*I realize now that the love for the template I purchased months ago has waned.
*Have started connecting w/clients but this is still a work in progress.
*I know the office space I want but working on the details, i.e the money
*Closet Fete items loading this week.
*Two new tee designs dropping this week
*Drivers License issue settled with the state I lost it in, now I just have to deal w/Illinois
*I definitely got the beach in and I am so glad I did. There is just something about being there, no matter how crowded the beach is, that puts me at ease. And my two new suits are divine. Especially the floral one. Fits like a DREAM. I have been going to the beach alone, so I snap selfies but I am hoping to get full body pics of these and post them with more detailed reviews of the suits.

*We went bike riding once because Joe's work schedule blows
*Did not Summerdance but DEFINITELY doing it this month
*Gym/workout schedule all the way off. I went but not enough. Getting it in today.
*I didn't pull out the mini grill but I did grill some veggies & we had a picnic yesterday
*We have decided to move, so I have acquiesced on the "wall of boxes" for now

So that's where I stand on the July list. Not great but not completely suck-azz. For August, the plan is to continue to get things done and continue to get out of my own head and live and be and do more.

August to do list forthcoming.

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