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{Life} For The Love of Sequins Ladies, What's With All The Guilt?

Happy Thanksgiving fabs! I am sitting on our long bus ride heading to see the grand wee one and I had an interaction with someone earlier that made me have to write this post today

I am writing it as it comes to me on my phone, so I may add to it later but here goes...

Ok ladies, it's been awhile but it's time for some real talk.

Why do women do the guilt thing?

You know the whole, oh gawd I feel so bad for a b c d & trying to e f g h when so much is wrong in the world thing.


Like really? Why ladies?

Why would you feel guilty because some things in the world are f*cked up?

Did you create the jacked up conditions in the world?

I didn't think so.

In times of mass f*ckery like what we live in now, LIVING OUT LOUD means more than ever.


{Luxaholic} Morning Calm

I realized as I was sitting here this morning how much I needed the quiet reflection time that I took this sunny, Sunday Morning. And I emphasize the word TOOK because it was a choice that I had to almost demand myself to make after being bombarded with all the madness stemming from the election.

It has definitely been some kind of a week.  Very emotional & trying. But today is World Kindness Day and we need to extend to ourselves and others what it symbolizes more than ever. So, as I sipped my tea, noshed on one of Joe's homemade muffins, read magazines on my tablet, I tuned out and said a prayer of gratitude in spite of it all.

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{Travel} Airbnb Oasis in The Big Easy #JetSetCurves

After being completely blown away by Beyonce's performance at the 2016 MTV Video Music Awards, instead of kicking myself for not buying tickets to see her when she brought her Formation Tour to Chicago, I went online and to see where else she was playing.

And of all the dates that were coming up, I knew the one I wanted to go to was the New Orleans stop. Partly because I hadn't been there since December of 2014 & felt I was way overdue for a trip. But also because I knew being in NOLA with it's old world vibe & the history embedded in its' streets would revitalize me.

And isn't that why we travel? To come home feeling renewed and inspired? And I definitely was not disappointed. Besides Bey doing what she does giving me a little more sass in my ass, I stayed at the most wonderful & unexpected Airbnb property.
Now I will start this off by saying that this property is not for everyone. The bathroom is shared by this and one of the other three room options at this property, although I never once had to wait to use it.

{Living} The Facade Of Safety: Staying Safe At Home & While Traveling

Hey fabs. I started this post a couple of days after the Kim Kardashian West robbery in Paris and I wanted to share a few things that I have been thinking about.  In particular I want to talk a bit about the "facade of safety". The facade of safety is something I think we all have especially in places that
are familiar to us, as apparently the private hotel that Kim was staying at was to her.

Granted because of her celebrity status there are lots of other security elements that Kim needs to address but I wanted to share a few things that I think are important for anyone, especially we women to be aware of.

I think we all need to remember that hotels, even private ones are not 100% safe and that we should be really vigilant about making sure that we take every precaution available to us. When I stay in hotels I always do a walk thru upon entering and I use the security bolt or latch even if I am just in the room for a few minutes. It’s just always been a simple thing that I think you should do.

You should also take precaution when opening the door for hotel "staff". Use the peephole, pay attention to what they are wearing and if you didn't call for them or wasn't expecting them, it is more than ok to talk to them via a closed, locked door.


{Lifestyle} A New, Convenient Way To Thrive At The Market

Hey Lovelies!

As mentioned in my The Purple Carrot meal delivery service post months back, when it comes to food & shopping, convenience rules in my world and I love being able to use services that make my life easier.

So when I came across Thrive Market, which is being billed as the online Whole Foods, without the whole paycheck prices, my interest was definitely stoked.

Partly because of the convenience factor of being able to order groceries online and also because they are a socially conscious online marketplace that offers natural and organic products BELOW retail prices,

But the biggest reason why is how they have built giving back into their business model. For every membership that is purchased, a membership will be given to a low income family. And they have also recently petitioned the USDA to allow food stamp recipients to be able to use their benefits online.

And that thrills me because I have experienced neighborhoods first hand, right here in big ol' Chicago that are complete and total food deserts.  I will never forget rushing my kid to her grandmother's house before work once and having to wait until 9am for Walgreens to open, only to find that the location did not have the formula that I needed. It was so frustrating.

So I feel having access to quality products that can be delivered to your home no matter where you live, is HUGE.

Healthier Food and Living Products From Thrive Market

And with over 3,000 products from 400+ brands that sell are top of the line, non-GMO, organic, vegan, raw, Paleo, gluten-free, and non-toxic items I think there is something for everyone.


{Life} Cheers To The New Year!

Hey Fabs!

2015 seriously went by in a flash. Tonight Joe and I will do as we have done most years, ring in the new year at home with dinner, dancing and toasting but I could not let the year sing its' swan song without taking a moment to say thank you.

Thank you so much for supporting my little web home. I wish you love, peace & happiness in the coming year!
Cheers to OWNing IT!

Look Details (this previously sold out sequin dress that I am wearing under my tutu is in stock and on sale)

Happy New Year!


{Life} Do More of What Makes You Happy

Well, it's official tomorrow a New Year will be at our door and we all know that with the start of every new year comes a bombardment of "New Year Resolutions".  Most of them revolve around changing our appearance and losing weight. The problem that arises from some of these resolutions is the usual shame that follows when you don't achieve them.

For 2015, I chose to stop making resolutions directed to morphing my body not for health reasons, but instead to meet beauty standards I'm being told by society I should meet. Let's stop pushing ourselves to achieve unattainable tasks that create feelings of shame or inadequacy. Instead, lets focus on living our best life! For 2016, let's focus on loving the people in our lives. Let's enjoy the moments and experiences the New Year brings and most importantly, let's focus on doing more of what makes us happy.


{Life} Take In The Moments...

Hey Fabs!

How are you surviving this whirlwind season? Christmas always makes me feel like a kid again and I really love this time of year so much. I feel such a sense of happiness with all the activity, even amazingly, the craziness in the stores and on the streets from all the shoppers.

But I also feel the ho hums on December 26th when the gifts have been opened and my favorite radio station is no longer playing Christmas music 24/7. Re-reading Zadry's Beat the Holiday Blues post will definitely be a must for me and thankfully I have so many things that I want to accomplish as we greet the new year that will hopefully keep me occupied and out of my feelings.

So, while it's going sooooo fast and it is so easy to get caught up in the madness, I am trying to take some quiet moments to just enjoy it. Like spending some time looking at our tree and sipping a cuppa, with the Christmas melodies playing in the background & just feeling the simple peace of it all before I head out for some last minute shopping.


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{Five Fab} Ways to Beat the Holiday Blues

The Holiday season is officially here. Next week is Thanksgiving. Isn't that crazy? Wasn't it just Halloween? But I won't complain since this is my favorite time of the year. I love everything about Thanksgiving and Christmas-- the food, the family time and the decorating.

My fondness for the holidays stems from my memories of growing up in Brooklyn. Watching the colors of the leaves change for Thanksgiving and waking up to a snow-covered yard on Christmas morning was a magical time.

But as you grow up, life happens and some of that magic gets lost. About five years ago I decided to shift my energies and rekindle my holiday spirit. I began focusing on the people and things that added joy and meaning to my life. 

So today my pre-holiday gift to you is this post-- 5 Fab Ways To Beat The Holiday Blues.


{Challenges} Giving #Vlogtober A Go!: Day 1

Hey Fabs!

Happy October! 

One of the things that always challenges me to the point where I just never do it, is video blogging. Or more accurately, editing vlogs. I will record a video and that's no big deal but then when it comes time to edit it, I just lose all my mojo for it.

Maybe it's because I am not using the best software but it just takes me such a long time {insert sad violin playing}. Bwaaaa..

I have managed to put out a few that I actually got through and liked as evidenced on my youtube page but there are so many other things that I would love to share via video and just don't.

Soooo...I thought why not join in on this Vlogtober challenge, which is simply a challenge to post a video blog every day of October. I figure at a minimum I will get in the habit of just getting behind the video camera more.

And since I love the spontaneity of Periscope (follow me!!), I will most likely be using it all month to live broadcast and then post the videos to my youtube channel.

So to 1 of Vlogtober oh and going forward the videos will be in landscape..womp!

Upon request, I have added links to some of the items in this video!


{Beauty} Finding Joy In The Journey Featuring Origins Three Part Harmony #ad

Hey Fabs!
I wrote a little bit about this on my birthday post but I wanted to share more with you about how my life has changed in such wonderful ways as I have gotten older. I truly believe that the biggest reason for this change is that I have been consumed with gratitude & just living each moment as they come. 

And as a result, this year I have accomplished things that I never even really thought were possible. For one, I have started running. This was huge for me because I have health issues that affect my legs.  And while I walked many a race and even walked a marathon back in my 20's, the last thing that you could have told me at the beginning of this year that I would be doing is running.

But I am

{Life} Cheers & Coming Soon!

Hey fabs!

I am just checking in and sharing a few things going on with moi. For one, I just posted an update on #DecorateMyFlat on Luxaholic about my balcony and the drama I am having getting the central piece for it, the love seat. Feel my pain here.

On a more pleasant note, I can not believe how fast a year has come and gone but Joe and I are leaving for an anniversary trip a little bit over a week away and I am just so geeked to get away and relax. I most likely will not be blogging but I will of course be sharing on my social channels using my travel hashtag #JetSetCurves

But before all of that, expect a giveaway, a foodie treat and of course more #plussizepicks & new fashion OOTDs like this one featuring this super fun, twirly dress from my Gwynnie Bee closet.

Stay Tuned!


{Life} It's My Earth Day Birthday!

Hey Lovelies!

I love sharing a birthday with the Earth ;) and normally I celebrate my birthday the entire month of April but this year, the month kind of snuck up on me and it wasn't until I like the 3rd that it dawned on me that I hadn't made any plans. And oddly enough I was cool with that.

Joe brought home cupcakes late last night to ring in my birthday...
While of course I love celebrating and having fun, this year thus far has been so much more about just simply being grateful that I get to see each new day.  So that's how I am living, taking each day in and working to spend every single one of them in celebration of the gift that they are.

xoxo, Jaye


{Life} A Woman of Change #NaBloPoMo #womenslives

Today's prompt: It's Women's History Month. There has been so many important women who have shaped the world. Who do you immediately think of when you think about women (past or present) who bring about change?

{Was knocked out on meds last night, so this post is a day late

The first name that came to my mind when I read this prompt was "The Big O", Oprah.

Happy birthday to the BIG O! You are one of my greatest inspirations!! #Oprah

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I can not think of anyone who has impacted more lives and in turn made our world better. I remember when I used to watch her show religiously. It shaped my world. I learned so much and was influenced in such a positive way by the variety of guests,etc that she featured.

From pushing reading to her putting herself out there as not some super woman but a real woman just trying to do her best because at the end of the day, that is all we can do.

Oprah definitely has and continues to bring about change in a world that is desperately in need of it.

What say you? 
What woman do you immediately think of who has brought about change? 


{Playlist} Music To Love To

Hey Lovelies! 

It's of course love month and I can't think of anything that speaks the language of love like music!  I mean no matter if you are single or attached, heartbroken or in love, with mr or mrs right or mr or mrs right now, there are songs that resonate for you, reinvigorate you, comfort you and remind you of the love you have, had or one day hope to have.

So in the spirit of this, I have put together a playlist of some of my favorite songs. They aren't all mushy love you for life kind of songs, although there are some of those included ;) but these are more so songs about love and what it can make you do, take you through and ultimately how it can settle your soul YES, Stephanie Mills! I feel the fire).

I hope you enjoy it.


New Year, New Vibe: Be Inspired Journal & Love Pouch Giveaway

One of the things that I started 2015 affirming for myself was actively working to accomplish my goals, my dreams and my aspirations.

Doing so definitely requires spending more time connecting with myself and really getting to the heart of the things that I want to achieve and do and be.

I desire to really engage more creatively, to take more chances, to stop procrastinating and to be open to being inspired in a variety of ways and hopefully be inspiring for others.

So when I came across this journal, it was just PERFECT.

GiGi New York Satchel: Rent or Buy | Journal: Marshalls |
Stamp Set: Michaels | Love Pouch: Target


New Year, New Vibe: Mix Things Up #CurvesDefined

Happy New Year Fabs! I can NOT believe how fast 2014 came & went!

We are still living out of boxes since our Dec 19th move but girlllllll it feels good to have more space.

I have slowly been acquiring new things. Deets on my latest score, this fab rug > Luxaholic post.

We have been without cable/internet since the move so I am again writing this on my phone, so it has definitely slowed down the frequency of posts.

But all that mess aside (side eye comcast AND our building owner) I wanted to share one of my many aspirations for 2015, which is to keep myself engaged in my goals by mixing things up as much as I can.

I started of 2015 in the gym, working my #CurvesDefined and while moving from elliptical to weight machines to treadmill I realized that for me to really stay at it, I need to keep it varied AND fun. 

Oh and I also need cute workout clothes. Shallow maybe but whatever works, no?

And in synchronicity with this need, an email from the place where I took one of the most fun and definitely crazy ass kicking workouts dropped in my box.

So Bollywood Groove here I come or rather here I come again!  (More on this to come). And now that I have space to actually move around without breaking something or injuring myself, I will be dusting off my Zumba dvds as well and plan to start checking out the classes at the gym.

How do you keep yourself inspired and engaged in your goals?


{What I Wore} Red Haute & Ugly Christmas

My style goal for Christmas day was to keep it simple and cute. First up was this awesomely fabulous red London Pintuck Sheath Dress (similar black here) from my Gwynnie Bee closet.


{Life} Who Moves 6 Days Before Christmas?


Seriously. I have written before about how crazy small our apartment is and so we reached the point where, while still hoping to buy property eventually, it was either get a bigger place NOW or get a divorce.

Haha...joking...sorta :) 

So, on Friday, December 12th I went to look at a place. We signed the lease on Saturday, December 13th (Joe didn't even see the place but trusted me to choose, which kinda freaked me out because I felt like the bedrooms might have been too small) and we moved the following Friday, December 19th, six days before Christmas.


Moving day went pretty smoothly, The movers, a company that I have used twice, Coffey Brothers Moving, arrived on time and the movers got to work. I felt kinda bad for them since they were dealing with third floor apartments on both ends but they were professional and did the damn thang in pretty good time.

When they finally left and the dust settled a little bit, I pulled out my winter themed linens and made the bed. It as pretty much all I had the energy for.


{Life} 3 Ways To Break The Blues #NaBloPoMo

Hello lovelies...

It's the first day of the December #NaBloPoMo and as mentioned here, in addition to regularly scheduled posts, I will be responding to the prompts that Blogher posted for the month.

Today's prompt:

What do you do when you're down to bring yourself a little joy?

My down days are more like down caves. I can get really deep in them & because I am a loner by nature, I tend to want to be left alone but thankfully down days are rare as of late for me. When they do hit me, there are a few simple pleasures that add a little joy & sparkle back to my world.

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