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{Fab Five} For the Weekend Vol. 15

Hey Delights!

Welcome to the first Fab Five For the Weekend of 2018! I am so excited for this year. Well I am excited for every single day that I have breath but there is just something different in the air. Something almost magical. And I am just taking it in and not questioning it and rolling with it because I need all the magic I can get. You may have noticed that I have been a little quiet around here. I have been dealing with some personal muck but I actually wrote this post over 2 weeks ago so here it is, a little earlier in the week than normal but here nonetheless.

Oh and the new blog space is dropping on Wordpress as mentioned in my January To Do List. I went with Bluehost as my because so many of my favorite sites use it, so I feel confident that it will be a good fit for my site.

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Wear: Although it is still very much winter, we like so many other cities have had almost 60 degree weather in Chicago from time to time this winter. And then a day later we could easily get a bunch of snow. There is no predicting anything with the weather. And because even in the midst of the coldest of coldest days I am liable to be a sweaty mess, the key for me is always to layer, layer...player...

So on one such warmer day, I wore the shut your mouth, I am not here for it N O P E Sweatshirt (featured here) under my always come though faux leather cape.

{Fab Five} For The Week Vol. 1

Hey Delights!

Since it was Thanksgiving week and things were alternately fast paced and slow going, I changed up this latest version of the Fab Five and instead of writing it for the weekend, I am bringing it to you today.

Joe and I spent Thanksgiving in mega chil mode. We ate, slept, went for a long walk to work off some of what we ate and make room to eat more. Ate more, watched Christmas movies, went to see two movies, Coco and Roman J. Israel, Esq (both which I talk about below), ate some more, did a little shop small business Saturday shopping, drank and slept some more. And in between all of that, I worked a bit on my goals (some highlighted here).

Here I am on the walk. It was such a great, sunny day in Chicago, so I just wore this super soft turtleneck  that I recently picked up, my new studded booties that you will see in a lot of my pics because I am LIVING in them and one of my favorite capes. See similar pieces on my liketoknow page.
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Turtleneck (currently under $13 & comes in 9 colors) | Studded Booties (currently under $30) 
Similar Capes | Jeans: Old Navy (old) 
 I didn't go crazy with the black Friday shopping. I picked up a couple of things including this Google Home Mini which is on sale for $29. I have been looking at these home assistants for awhile now and it was a price that could not be beat. Stay tuned, I will definitely be sharing my 2 cents about it at some point.

{Five Fab} For the Weekend Vol. 14

Happy Weekend Delights!

I am alternately super excited and kinda bummed that we are basically already into November already. Of course I am excited because it's one of my favorite months but man is it going fast. As I write this, we are already one week down and these days are getting darker sooner, thanks day light savings time fall back. And I just want it to go a little slower. Because there is so much that I want to do these next 2 months of 2017.

I was working on my vision board and woahh...I mentioned in episode 16 of the CurvaCast how amped up I currently am and well...let's just say that I am going big or going bigger from here on out.
Faux Fur Vest Blue Velvet Booties
Details to similar pieces to rock this vibe on my Liketoknow.it page

Shop: So you guys have probably noticed that the brands are dropping mega sales already this year and some of the deals are 💃. So I am sharing 4 of the many pieces currently on sale, that are must haves for the upcoming holiday season. I have also linked to lots more on my Shop page.

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The CurvaCast Episode 16: An Interview, Inspiration, Rants, Travel & A Plea To Women

Hey Delights!

Welcome back to another episode of The CurvaCast. It's been a minute so I am sharing quite a bit in this episode of the CurvaCast. As mentioned in my Universal Standard giveaway post, there are clips from my interview with Alexandra Walden, the co-founder of Universal Standard. {HintI also mention the answer to the giveaway during the podcast around minute 39}, so if you missed my Instagram stories, you can find it there to enter.😊
this episode. As mentioned in my

I went to see Janet Jackson in concert and she was AMAZING! I haven't danced as much as I did that night in a very long time. And because it was Janet, I had to go with a rocker chic but movable vibe, so I rocked my one shoulder faux leather top again (last seen here). Get links to recreate this vibe on my liketoknow.it page.

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There are also a couple of travel tips, recaps of the amazing events that I have been to and how they have inspired me. And a rant about brands who blow it with bogus promotions, and how all who appear woke, ain't and the need for women to stop it with the self deprecation and a few other things.

{Events} Glow Maven Latham Thomas | Own Your Glow

Shout out to Latham & Bodhi Spiritual Center for the invite.

Hey Delights!

Event recap: I had such a lovely time at this event. Latham and Lola filled the room with laughs, wisdom and inspiration. I recorded it so that I could go back and listen to it when I needed a little spiritual mojo. Latham and I had a conversation about a tense moment (hence the reaction on her face) that she mentioned the night before at the Together Live event. Essentially it was a moment where she stood up for someone who really couldn't do it for themselves. It was a reminder that we all should be paying attention and standing up for each other. 
 Photos: Latoya Thorn Photography
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She wrote in my book that she sees so much grace in me and I hope that I can truly live exemplifying that. 
I previously featured Latham Thomas aka Glow Maven way back in 2015 when I was my first introduced to her via a collaboration I did with Nissan for their Haute Havens series. 

She just recently released her book Own Your Glow, which I pre-ordered. I spent a little me time one morning on my balcony aka my reading nook with a cuppa, one of those delicious vegan scones Joe made for Curvy Girls Tea, getting my life from the book.
Own Your Glow is in Latham's words:

{Five Fab} Books I Have Recently Loved

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Hey Delights!

Apparently today is Book Lovers Day and as a book lover I thought I would share with you five books that I have loved recently.  And while I have had a life long love affair with physical books, I haven't physically read a book in quite some time because the way my life is set up it has just been easier to listen to them via audio books.

And yes I miss those days when I would draw a bath filled with bubbles, grab a drink and a book and get lost in the pages but I've gotten so many more books in because of Audible. It is akin to me using Texture for reading my magazines, it is a trade off I have been willing to make because I would not otherwise be able to enjoy nearly as many books. {More about Texture here}.

So here are five books that I have listened to this year that have truly left an impression on me and that I truly love.

Gabourey Sidibe's This Is Just My Face: Try Not to Stare was really hilarious and gives you lots of insight into Gabi's early life and a bit of her post "Precious" life and career thus far. I talked about it during this episode of The CurvaCast.


{Fab Five} For the Weekend | Vol.1

Happy weekend Fabs!

This particular weekend has felt like it was a long time coming but now it is here and I am sharing a new feature with ya. Fab Five For the Weekend will feature something to shop, wear, read, watch and drank!  And it's the weekend, so no need for rambling on...so I am just going to get to it.

Shop: You know Eloquii gets lots a love around these parts and rightfully so & they a kick- ass sale (that ends tonight at midnight!!). I have rocked one of my all time favorite purchases from the brand, these faux leather culottes so much (three past looks here) and they are on sale for $39.

Here are a few of my current other MUST HAVES!

Wear: It's in the 60's here and I just so happened to be planning to rock the faux leather culottes today with my red studded flats for a nice pop of color. Love these similar flats & would totally snatch them up if they had them in my size....sigh. Big feet problems.


{Link Love} Shouts & Raves | Vol 3

Hey Girl!

It's been a minute since my last Link Love: Shouts & Raves post, but I have a lot I want to share with you.

+ In case you missed it, I was asked to add my two cents to this Shape Magazine article, Would You Be Mad If Someone Called You Fat?. And if you have been riding with me for any amount of time, I think you know my answer but what about you? Would you be mad?

+ Speaking of mad, I know I am not the only person who feels like there isn't enough time to do ANYTHING! The days feels like they are flying by and there is so much I want to accomplish and way too many moments where I fall short.

Soooo...I have reached out to my Audible library for some much needed inspiration/help/guidance and I am currently listening to & loving 168 Hours: You Have More Time Than You Think by Laura Vanderkam.

I started listening to it forever ago but ironically, that whole not enough time thing got in the way, but this time I am committed because, girl...ish is out of hand around these parts and I am just not about that life anymore. For realssss...


{Fab Five} Must Have Books For Your Library #NaBloPoMo

I am a major book lover and this time of year is definitely a perfect time to throw on a cozy sweater and cuddle up on the couch reading. And while I don't get to do this nearly as much as I want to, here are five books that I think are definitely worth being on your must read list.

Five Must Have Books For Your Library

Although I have postponed my Paris trip because we are planning to move in the Spring and hopefully purchasing a home and I am saving towards that, this book, The Paris Journal: Book One is still very high on my reading list.


{life} autumn weekend...

happy saturday...i hope that your weekend has gotten off to a wicked fab start...

my weekend thus far...i dove into nate berkus' the things that matter (so timely for my life right now) and settled in friday night with an epic soak, chill session after i was attacked by a bitch of a stomach bug..

a little moscato (to settle my stomach...wink, wink), lush honey bee bomb (it is my fav), anthropologie candle (it's a lil pricey but my oh my...the scent is to die and it burns so long) and ahhh...

i am finalizing the details for an event i am hosting next month (SAVE THE DATE: Nov 10th!!!)

i am working on my very first blog newsletter (did you join my email list? hmmm?) the winner of the julep giveaway will be announced in it, along with a lot of other newsletter only giveaways, pics, etc.

this is an event free weekend because i am hoping to put a dent in some serious work backlog and the purge continues...

it is amazing how much stuff one can accumulate..

i am being very disciplined and just chucking stuff...originally i was trying to do a lot of sorting and (over)thinking but now, it's toss...toss...toss...we get dumpster divers in our hood regularly, so i hope they can put some of it to good use, make a profit or whatever...it just has to go...

have you signed up for Gwynnie Bee yet? don't forget to take advantage of the sweet offer going on...

oh and i love that Glen from Full Figure Plus is considering Gwynnie Bee as a way to score points with the mrs!

what a great idea...pass on those hints to your partners ladies!



{fun} Tim Gunn @ The Union League of Chicago

As mentioned in my packing post, I made a pit stop to say hello to Tim Gunn & grab a copy of his Fashion Bible on my way to the airport last Friday. He was of course dapper to the nine and as you can see, I even got him a little excited! ;)


{travel} Weekend Trip Packing

I took a trip to NYC this weekend and making this trip several times a year has really shaped how I pack.

For one, getting around NYC can be exhausting at times, with the multitude of trains & buses I sometimes have to take to get where I am going and of course the thousands of people who come along for the ride O_o.

I remember when I moved to NYC almost a decade ago. I had just paroled myself from corporate and convinced Joe that we should just do it and we arrived in the dead of summer and it was a serious rude awakening. We had all of these humongo suitcases and were schlepping them on trains, off trains, up ramps, down ramps, up stairs, down stairs..it was a nightmare.

So, as the years have gone by, I have changed the way that I pack and the last two trips especially have been minimalist to the max.

Here's what I packed this time.

{Event} Recap: Standout Style Book Launch

The other night I went to celebrate the launch of Tamika Price's book, Standout Style.

Tamika is the woman behind A-Line Style Services and
Dangerous Curves Ahead charity fashion show and just
an all around fabulous woman.


Shop it To Me & What I Wore in Chicago

the other evening i attended the What I Wore book signing that was hosted by Shop it To Me at Julia Watson Style.

i wore one of my latest animal print pieces, this fabulous skirt
(i am seriously obsessed with animal prints, did you see my python feature??)

it was a very laid back event, with delicious drinks and small bites and Jessica Quirk, 
the author of the book and the blog of the same name.

she sat down individually with everyone who wanted a book signed
and chatted in a very casual not rushed manner

she's a really sweet girl....very genuine and friendly... i love that...
(don't ask me what was going on with my glasses...i don't know)

but the book is pretty cool....it's full of great fashion advice and the most fantastic illustrations

i also got the chat up Laura, one of the ladies from Shop it To Me, who also blogs at On The Racks.

she's totally adorable!

with Sabrina of Defying My Closet, who's new attitude is right up my alley!

with Lindsey of Lindsey Soup

this was one of those nights where i had like three events to attend, 
all at the same time but i ended staying so long at this event, 
because i was enjoying myself, that i didn't attend the other two...
and that's a good thing in my book.

check out the recap from Shop it To Me for more pics!

Karma is My B Book Signing

I attended C Chic Chicago's book signing for her new novella, Karma is My Bitch.

I love that title. It's just so badass.

And I love it even more that it and it's contents are the last thing I would have ever expected from Cha'rron.

She is such a quiet, sweet girl who is always out and about with her lil one.

She even wrote about how she put off releasing it because she worried how the world would take it coming from her.

Needless to say, I love that once she decided that she just didn't want to hold all this drama inside anymore, she didn't waste time, finishing the novella and getting it out there in a matter of months.

The book signing was held at the cute boutique Viktoria's Closet. There were models on hand, good food and drinks, a DJ and of course fashion.

Viktoria, the owner of Viktoria's Closet

I started reading it when I left the event and you know how sometimes you read a book and it takes a while to get into the stories?

Well this is a novella after all and the drama with a capital D hits ya from the jump.

Congratulations Cha'rron! I am so glad that you didn't let fear stop you from pursuing one of your dreams.

A portion of the proceeds from the sale of Karma is My Bitch goes to charity.

Learn more about it and get your copy here.

The Curvy Girl's Guide to Style Book Giveaway Winner

Sorry that I am late posting this but here ya go!

The winner of The Curvy Girl's Guide to Style book is: Tatia Toney.

Please email me your mailing address!

Also, there is another giveaway in the works so stay tuned!

Book Giveaway: The Curvy Girl's Guide to Style

On the tail end of Full Figure Fashion Week ™ I ventured out to Brooklyn to get my shop on at Re/Dress NYC.

Speaking of which, if you missed it, check out my interview with Deb, the owner from last year.

Anyway, while there, I ran into Chasity Garner of The Curvy Girl's Guide to Style blog.

She recently released her first book under the same name, so she was there to sign copies and chat up style.

The poor thing said that she was exhausted and couldn't wait to get home but she was out there working hard on her book tour!

Of course I had to show my support and purchased the book.

The Curvy Girl's Guide to Style is written in a very cute "girlfriend tone" and provides some great tips on how to dress the body that you have.

I noted a few weeks ago that I was going to give this away on my facebook page so, here ya go.

To be entered to win, just leave a comment on the Facebook status update for this blog post.

Fine Print: One winner will be chosen at random for the giveaway. The giveaway ends 7/26/10 @ 11:59 pm CST and is open to folks in the US only.

Really Great Gifts $20 & Under

I am participating in a secret santa gift exchange and the cap is 20 bucks.

And while I was hoping to get someone that I knew well, I ended up getting a guy that I don't know much about and who all his buddy could tell me is and i quote "a nerd who likes the Cubs and goofy sh**"


So, needless to say shopping for him will not be that much fun.

Sure there is all kinds of Cubs merchandise but with $20 as the cap, its looking like a t shirt or some other dull gift it will be.

Anyway, I am always on the lookout for bargains and this holiday season is deal heaven.

The stores are practically giving away the goods.

Here is a random collection of items that are currently under $20 that I think are way cool and know that anyone who receives them will love.

Style&co. Handbag, Tote in Zip Around Pouch

New York City in a Bag

Charter Club Knit Cuff Leather Gloves

RuMe Bags: Ultra-Luxe Metallics (I love my RuMe Bag & wish I had it one of these funky colors!)

Gwendolen Brass Necklace

Cinched Clutch (under $10)

Spike Feather Cuff

rsvp Studded Heels (under $10)

Sephora Brand Mini Super Shimmer Gift Set

Mr. Fierce Himself..

Today is the big release day of Christian Siriano's Fierce Style: How to Be Your Most Fabulous Self

Per the editorial info for the book "he helps readers discover how to look, feel, and act fierce in everyday life. With tips from some of fashion and Hollywood's biggest names -including Victoria Beckham, Heidi Klum, Nina Garcia, and Vanessa Williams -- along with gorgeous original sketches by Christian, never-before-heard stories, and behind-the-scenes photos, he tells his journey of developing his own fashion sense and overcoming obstacles to success"

Here he is on the cbs early show doing what he does best..talk about being fierce or ferosh..and his love for halle, heidi, victoria and more..

oh and he also brought along one of the crazy horn like shoes coming to his line @ Payless

As much as i love the funkiness of his shoes, (although i am not over the lack of size 11 in the best of the styles from this seasons line) i have to wonder if the everyday girl will actually rock them.

What say you?

Plus Size Diva Weddings: Andi & Danny

This is a post from my old blog Plus Size Diva. The lovely couple were married a yr ago but it's one of my favorites so I thought I would share it here.

All you Plus Size Brides to Be, take note!

Welcome to the first edition of Plus Size Diva Weddings.

Our first lovely couple is Andi & Danny and they just got married this month!

Andi sent me some really great emails detailing her experience and I am excited to share it with you!


What is/was your wedding date? August 9, 2008

Can you describe the proposal?

We had been dating nearly a year. It was New Year's Day. We decided to go to a local park. It was freezing outside so we first stopped by starbucks so I could get a cup of coffee. This local park is situated around a river with a waterfall in the heart of downtown.

(I'm attaching a picture of the park so you can get an idea of what it is like).

All around the park there are benches and swings. We sat down and cuddled up on one of the swings closest to the falls. I made a comment about how beautiful and perfect that moment was.

Then he stood up, reached in his pocked and dropped to one knee. He had to remind me what he said because I was so focused on the ring. But he said something like he would be so happy if I would be his wife.

The ring is an engagement ring that belonged to his mother, who passed away about 10 years ago (his dad passed away about 6 years ago). By wearing this ring, it feels as though we have his parents' blessing.

What was/is the most difficult part of planning your wedding?

Working with so many people. It is so hard to get so many people's schedules coordinated at the same time.

What was/is the most fun part of planning your wedding?

Honestly...either picking out my dress or the cake tasting

If there was/is one thing you would do differently what would it be?

Elope or do a small destination wedding at Disney World...or not get married the year I graduate college and start Graduate School...seriously I start grad school a few days after I get back from my honeymoon!

What advice would you offer to other brides?

Give yourself time. Don't get overwhelmed. It is a lot to do, but everything will come together.

What were/are your honey moon plans? Going to Disney World for a week!

What else could you share about your experience?

As a plus sized bride, I have had mixed experiences.

One of the first things I did, was go to look for a dress. I'll be honest, I was scared to go looking for a dress. When my fiance proposed I was at the largest size I have been at my life. I weighed 240 lbs, and wore a size 22.

I didn't want to go to one of the snooty bridal salons that specialize in couture wedding gowns, afraid that they'd take one look at me and say, "Ha we don't have anything in your size!"

I decided to take the safer route and shop at David's Bridal, where I know dresses go up to a size 28. I will admit, pickings were slim in my size. I saw racks and racks of size 8 dresses, but only a small corner dedicated to a size 22. I tried on my first dress.

I was scared that in this white dress, I was going to look larger than I was. White isn't a slimming color. How could I look good in white! I have a very peaches and cream complexion, wouldn't white wash me out? I glanced in the mirror and loved what I saw.

Its just something about a wedding dress.

Any woman of any size can put one on and instantly look beautiful. I tried on 5 dresses that day. I was torn between the first and the third dresses I tried on. In the end, the third dress I tried on triumphed.

It was beautiful. It made me feel like a princess.

The dress had intricate beading around the bosom and down the train. Underneath my bust, the dress gathered with delicate chiffon and floated down. Despite me being a size 22 I felt like the most beautiful woman in the world.

There was an old woman there to watch her granddaughter try on dresses. However she kept paying me more attention than her granddaughter (and even admitted to it). She kept telling me how gorgeous I was.

One of the bridal consultants (also a plus sized woman) came over to tell me just how beautiful I looked. She remarked to my mom that often plus sized girls are scared to come in and try on gowns, but I looked beautiful. She remarked on my delicate features and the fact that the dress was just as delicate and soft as I was.

Then I was moved to another area to see the back of my gown. What do I know, I am trying on the same dress with a girl half my size. But, several people remarked that the dress looked better on me!

Most brides try desperately to lose weight before their wedding day.

Not me. No crash diets for me.

When I tried on that dress, I loved the way it fit and looked on me. I didn't want to risk losing too much weight where it wouldn't fit me right. I've lost about 15 lbs since the beginning of the year. The dress is a little loose, but still fits.

I've had to listen to my bridesmaids talk about wanting to lose weight.

My maid of honor is my best friend and a size 8. She said she doesn't want to look fat. But in comparison...I'm a 20 (yeah I did drop a size). One of my other bridesmaids is a 14 and the other (my sister-in-law) is a size 16 and will be 6 months pregnant.

It irritates me that my sister-in-law and my other bridesmaid comment about how great they look in their dresses (I really did an awesome job picking out dresses), yet my maid of honor who could look good in a paper bag is complaining about her non-existent arm fat.

I've had people ask me if I'm going to try to lose weight for my wedding. No, I'm trying to lose weight for me. Any weight that I have lost this year is more of a result of the stress from planning a wedding on my own!

When I get stressed I tend to clench my jaw a lot, and it makes my TMJ problems worse, to the point eating is painful. So yay for me! (YES YAY FOR YOU!!)

All in all, any negativity incurred has been from outside sources, expecting me to fill a particular role.

Brides are supposed to want to be their skinniest on their wedding day.

However, I just want to be my happiest.

My fiance is the most wonderful man I have ever met. I am excited to spend the rest of my life with him...and feel like a princess in the process.


As you can see Andi is a Plus Size Diva in every sense of the word. She is fierce, confident, open and honest!

And more importantly, she "gets it":
That a wedding and all that goes with it, (and a life really) is about doing the things that make YOU happy!!

I love that!

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